We live in a society where morality is primarily tied with sexual conduct. If one's sexuality falls outside the accepted mainstream then it and the person is considered inextricably immoral. Even though the sexuality is usually a private affair consented to by all parties, others feel as though they alone retain the right, nay the duty, to judge the other person and find them wanting. These same people can and will produce a wide variety of rather dubious statistics to buttress their claims that a sexually repressed society is a moral one.
Unfortunately, this creates an environment where many actual crimes committed by the "moral majority" are considered irrelevant. We are asked, at this point, to accept or ignore the choices made by our so-called moral superiors that actually resulted in verifiable harm that we certainly did not consent to. For example, a government that seeks to police every sexual encounter between consenting adults within its country, yet promotes war, condones stealing and lying, hatred and bigotry. While the latter are truly causes for concern, the good citizenry is distracted by scandals involving the former. Surely there are sexual encounters between consenting adults that condone lying to an extent, though that is hardly on the same level as lying about the motivation to enter yet another war or how we treat enemies in our custody.
With regard to morality in sex, I feel that so long as one, two (or more!) consenting adults are involved, then do as you may. I am not a fan of monogamy at all and I think the majority of humans worry themselves sick trying to meet an ideal that is simply not in our nature. This holds true for men and women, despite the supposed "natural" expression of monogamy in women. Without going off on a complete tangent, women are separated from their sexuality from a very young age thanks to the double standard of the Madonna-Whore complex and many never reconcile with their sex. It is unfortunate and causes innumerable problems, the least of which is extreme jealousy and possessiveness. The Myth of Monogamy by Drs. David P. Barash and Judith Lipton is an excellent resource on this subject.
As a human being, I make sure my actions will not cause irreparable harm to another. Isn't this the point of morality? It never enters my mind to actually physically harm another or say something horrible just because I can, despite dark thoughts we all have at moments. This is what separates a civilized, respectful person from the brute. To me, this is the role of morality.
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