Companion Ethics

When I was researching this profession, I noticed many assurances against fraud, two of which I would like to comment upon here. One I noticed quite often was that Companions reassured potential clients that they will show up and stay for the entire time for which their encounter is contracted. The obvious and correct assumption is that some women who at least call themselves escorts or Companions are little more than con artists or swindlers. This is a crying shame and shows absolutely no respect for the profession; and it is, without a doubt, a profession at certain levels.

For example, "escorts" like this person who set back our efforts to be taken seriously by at least two centuries. Not only does this anger me as a Companion but as an ethical human being. I truly do not understand some people's motivations. That was unnecessary and only embitters clients against escorts and others in this line of work. Of course, the reverse happens more often than not, sometimes accompanied with violence. One of many reasons escorts and other sex workers want to and need to unionize though the law is a large barrier to that becoming a reality.

Then there is the issue of image. Specifically, whether the escort in the photograph will be the person who shows up for the date. When I was researching this profession, I was baffled to learn that some people will use pictures of other models completely misrepresenting themselves. What a way to show that you completely lack self-esteem. The thought of that has never entered my mind because I love the way I look and my clients will too. I present myself to the world: my thoughts, my motivation, my image, my passions...everything but my name for security purposes of course. This is a line of work where one must be comfortable with themselves before diving in. No picture would be better than a false one.

To some, this post is a thing of perversion. How can a woman like me be so concerned with ethics when I violate and flout the moral decorum of my society? Ethics, to me, are not mutually inclusive with sexual/sensual expression. If anything, as I became comfortable with my sexuality and sensuality and truly embraced it, that is when I treated my fellow human beings with more respect. My actions are not those that cause physical harm upon others, nor do they cruelly take advantage of another. I respect my fellow human being and have no reason to cause harm unprovoked. I respect clients because they have earned it and they respect me because I have also earned it. This is because I love myself and when you have that self-love, it encompasses all those around you.

Companions understand this as a Golden Rule of our profession: we love others as we love ourselves.

Ninon Baccara, The Voluptuous Libertine